The first step to fulfilling your desires is to know what you want and where to find it. It’s like going on a journey. Before you pack your travel bag and leave home, you need to have a destination in mind. It could be a beach hut on a sunny, relaxing desert island, a boutique hotel in a vibrant, lively city centre or maybe a country house in a quiet rural location. Whatever and whenever you wish. Your choice.

It’s exactly the same with your life. It might be anything you need, want or desire at this exact moment, day, or time of your life. You’re lucky if you know what the next stop is on this journey. But if you, like me a few years back, don’t know which way to choose, what the desired place should look like and/or what the purpose of this particular trip is, I have three helpful tools to help you find out.

Circle of life

The aim of the circle of life is to try, as much as possible, to have an equal level of fulfilment in all areas of your life. To just have a balance, a holistic approach to life.

Take a blank sheet of paper and draw a big circle. Now divide the circle into several sections, as if you were cutting the pieces of a cake. Each section represents an area of your life. It’s up to you how many you choose, but you should aim for at least six categories. From my experience and research I advise to you to make closer to ten – or even more. It gives you a wider perspective and helps you discover those areas of your life you haven’t previously thought about. But, of course, it’s your choice.

Here are my propositions:

1) Shorter version: Family, Friends, Love, Hobby, Career, Health.

2) Longer version: Family, Friends & Social Life, Love, Hobbies & Free Time, Self-Development & Learning, Career, Finance, Health, Exercise, Nutrition, Home & Environment, Soul & Beliefs.

Now, think about how fulfilled and happy you feel in each chosen area and give each one a number of points on the scale 1-10, where 1 means the least happiness and 10 the greatest fulfilment.

Below is an example of how it could look:


The purpose of this exercise is to see which area of your life needs more time and focus. This will be the one with the smallest number of points.

In contrast to this are the areas you scored the highest and feel the greatest satisfaction from. You might focus less on these.

Bagua map

The bagua map is used in Feng Shui to organize your space, home or room – even your desk – into nine areas of your life in order to create energy. You may or may not believe in this. But even if you don’t, I’ve discovered that you can use the bagua map as a guide to learning more about yourself. You can just draw it on a bristol board.

Here is how you should divide up the board:

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Now, you just need photos and/or pictures from magazines or the internet. Cut out images which most represent your ideal life and stick them on the board in the particular part of your map that represents the area you’ve chosen. This gives you the chance to discover exactly what you would like to do and what it might be like to feel fulfilment and again, I repeat, through a holistic approach: the balance in life.

Vision board

This is exactly the same exercise as the bagua map, but with the vision board you can stick pictures to the bristol board wherever you like and without any special way of doing it. All you need to do is choose the main purpose of the vision board. For example:
an event, such as your birthday or New Year’s Eve, to plan the next year of your life
a subject, for example your dream house, places where you would like to go, or just your passion
one area of your life you would like to focus and work on: love life, health or career.

All these types of vision boards help you identify what you want in life and discover new paths you haven’t seen yet. But by looking up at different pictures you like and choose, you might see completely fresh possibilities and open exciting new doors.

Bonus test

As a bonus I highly recommend a free personality test: 16 Personalities, where you can get to know yourself better and find out much more about who you are, how you react to things, and what you like and don’t like to do.

All of these tools were my first step to the life I would like to live. I’m still using them, correcting them and filling them in – because the best of it part is, once you start achieving your goals, you can replace them with new ones. But that’s a story for a different post.

I hope all of these tools have been helpful to you and I will be more than happy to read your thoughts in the comments section.

Thank you for reading, and I wish you a fruitful quest for yourself.